Ten Things NOT to Do In Your Faith Deconstruction - Britt Hartley | Ep. 2011

 Apr 17 2025 In this episode, we explore 10 common pitfalls people face during religious deconstruction. From navigating relationships and parenting outside of organized religion to the challenges of psychedelics, intellectualism, and identity loss—this is a raw, honest conversation about life after faith. Whether you're just beginning your journey or deep in it, this discussion offers insight, validation, and guidance.Key topics covered:Why opening your marriage right after leaving religion may backfireHow to provide structure for your kids without religionThe psychedelic trap & chasing spiritual highsThe “missionary phase” of ex-belief systemsFinding meaning beyond religion, without clinging to new dogmasThe lifelong process of deconstructionAnd much more, including Gen Z dating, chakras, free will, and dreamsDon’t miss her reflections on what she’s learned, what to avoid, and how to move forward with integrity and openness.Show NotesYouTube00:00:00 Introduction00:04:44 These are things she's learned to be aware of as you are in the mess of religious deconstruction; it’s not a same thing00:08:04 The first thing you should avoid: Opening your marriage soon after leaving your faith00:16:32 Second: Providing order and structure for kids00:22:37 Do kids need religion for structure and order?00:34:15 Third: Psychedelic chasing00:39:45 Four: Clinging to new beliefs00:45:32 Reality is more magical than how we view reality00:50:28 Five: Avoid the Missionary Phase. Sam Harris says: “No one is more ardent in their atheism than exMormons”00:57:01 Six: Not recognizing the good in religion 01:04:57 Seven: Underestimating the hard work it is to replace religion01:12:32 Eight: Underestimating that deconstruction is a lifelong process01:18:11 Do we have free will? 01:28:32 Nine: Avoid finding new prophets01:35:45 Ten: Overemphasis on intellectualism01:42:53 Final thoughtsMormon Stories Thanks Our Generous Donors!Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today:One-time or recurring donation through DonorboxSupport us on PatreonPayPalVenmoOur Platforms:YouTubePatreonSpotifyApple PodcastsContact us:MormonStories@gmail.comPO Box 171085, Salt Lake City, UT 84117Social Media:Insta: @mormstoriesTikTok: @mormonstoriespodcastJoin the Discord
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